Alignment Begins With Being, Not Doing.
Over the years I've learned that it is the state of our being that produces the experience of our lives, not the state of our doing. Let me say this again for the people in the back: the experience of our lives is not defined by what we do. I'm often asked what I do for a living because the outcome of what I do is a seemingly desirable life. In the context of a rather limited and limiting experience that each of us are met with when we're called to think of ourselves in the future, and asked "What do you want to be when you grow up?", we focus on the profession and forget to figure ourselves out. Though what we do holds weight, being the highest expression of yourself is where the focus should be for each of us.
It goes without saying that these are some of the gems we’ve all been endowed with from Mama O over the years through the Oprah Winfrey Show. In recent times, her transition into embracing her spirituality more deeply, when she takes us to church on SuperSoul Sunday Conversations, has in many ways given us all insight as to which critical ideas we should consider taking up when it comes to focusing on being and not doing.
If you stay stocking up on motivation from Mama O’s interviews on Youtube, then this timeless interview below is one that you should probably visit at the beginning of each quarter of the year. If you have time, watch the entire one hour interview and get ready to take some notes. Trust me you will want to make reference to your notes. If you are stressed for time, have a listen from 28:29 which is where the clip below starts. The interviewer asks:
“What are the qualities of your leadership that make you successful at such diverse pursuits? And what works in one area, that maybe doesn’t work in another area?”
Her brilliant response, almost immediate, is telling of how the answer is something she doesn’t have to think about because she lives it. She explains, “Well let me tell you, it works in all areas of my life because my life is fueled by my being. And the being fuels the doing. So I come from a centered place. I come from a focused place.”
In a lovely ode to his identity and putting a score on his awareness of his being, Pablo Picasso exalted:
“My mother said to me, 'If you are a soldier, you will become a general. If you are a monk, you will become the Pope.' Instead, I was a painter, and became Picasso.” A bold statement, that articulates the type of thinking that persists in those who the world will forever remember as being great, not entirely for what they did but more importantly for the human beings they simply were.
I hope we will grow up to be the ones to ask younger generations what qualities and characteristics they hope to embody. In the same breath, I hope we grow up to be ourselves. Whatever that means.